I plan to go on a Stargate Atlantis trip, so I organized a list from episode recs I found at Mckay/Sheppard Slash.
( Kinda spoilery list )

The reason why vampire shows are the kinkiest shows on normal tv can be summed up in this one sentence from True Blood episode 2:

"Goddammit, suck it! Do you wanna live or not?!"